Laughter Love Language
Matching humor is probably my favorite form of connection. There are loads of things that people can have in common but there’s no doubt that similar styles of humor is an elite commonality.
I heard a man say his love language was laughter. Of the many ways to express and receive love, humor is easily a top 5 contender in the realm of connection forming faculties. I love when a joke bounces back n forth. I love to be able to catch it, add a twist, and pass it back a few times. I love when it shifts and morphs into something even better. It’s levels. A joke with growth is exciting to watch because it changes right in front of your eyes. It’s understanding. It’s an understanding that only works when both people know the rules and are on the same page. On the same playing field. Going the same speed.
Rules to our own personal humor can be particularly niche and a lot of people may not know how to play. Explaining the rules takes away from the fun; like when you’re explaining how you and your friends play Uno. But the joy and excitement that you feel when the other person asks ‘do yall play train’ the same time as you. Picasso.
Aside from the fact that it helps reduce high blood pressure, inflammation, stress, and increases our overall sense of wellbeing, laughter is something to learn from. It’s a language and when we find something funny, we speak. We confess. When it comes bursting out and we can’t hold it in any longer; it’s fun expression.
It’s telling.
Your sense of humor is your personality in a different layout. A pie chart vs. a bar graph. The same information shown in a new format. A different angle. The most telling of them all. There are many different forms of funny. Dark humor, Sarcastic Humor, Cheesy humor, Stupid funny, Physical humor. Sarcasm is my personal favorite. Witty and crass. Dry being the icing on the cake.
Another’s humor can be different yet complimentary and still speak to you in ways you didn’t expect. It’s not quite the same as yours but lends a hand to the punchline. The crafters are skilled in different styles of funny but the two mesh to everyones surprise. Matching humor that you don’t see coming is usually the tell tale sign of a promising meet-cute. To stumble into a joke. Absentminded discourse that fascinates everyone in the room. It fills the space with unplanned goodness. A pleasant surprise. Sheer luck, good timing, and compatibility. The ability to speak to someone else’s humor that is slightly different from your own increases emotional intelligence and helps you speak in a language your partner better understands. Increased connection. The purpose of love languages in the first place.
There has to be some relevance to how you feel when you see a meme that you instantly know will make a specific person laugh out loud. That “they would love this” excitement you get because although it’s just a meme, it directs you to your connection shared through humor. That feeling of knowing someone so well that you’re sure this will brighten their day. That language you both speak so fluently where nothing is lost in translation. That genuine lighthearted understanding that connects you and ensures you both are on the same page. On the same playing field. Going the same speed
